A 9/11 Widow Shares Her Tale Of Love From Beyond

first_img Tweet LifestyleRelationships A 9/11 Widow Shares Her Tale Of Love From Beyond by: – September 10, 2011 Sharing is caring! Share Sharecenter_img 50 Views   no discussions Share On September 11, 2001, Bonnie McEneaney was away from her desk when her husband, Eamon McEneaney, tried calling from his office in the World Trade Center. “I missed Eamon’s call,” she says. “He spoke to my assistant just basically to tell me and the kids that he loved us and he was trying to get out.”On September 2, 2001, Eamon revealed to Bonnie that he’d experienced a premonition suggesting New York City would be attacked by terrorists, and that it would happen soon. Bonnie wondered why such a dark thought would surface at a family Labor Day picnic, and she began to worry that her husband was suffering depression. Then, the night of September 9, 2001, Eamon turned to Bonnie while they were watching a TV program about D-Day, and told her, “I want you to know that I can handle my death now.” Bonnie calls that “the last real exchange we had” before the morning of September 11, when Eamon experienced a vertigo attack in the shower. He somehow composed himself enough to get dressed and make his daily commute to New York City’s Financial District.But it wasn’t until Sept. 12 that Bonnie realized her husband had possessed a special connection with the supernatural. She and her four children, along with Eamon’s family, spent all of Sept. 11 calling hospitals and emergency centers to see whether there was any chance Eamon had checked in there. “I was very frustrated, we’d been looking all day trying to [find him], and I went out my front door. I live in a very country-like setting and I just yelled out, ‘Please tell us where you are!’ It was a still, still day—the type of day when there’s no air moving.” Just then a wind came from nowhere to rustle through the trees and past her skirt. Bonnie took a minute to observe it sweep across her yard and cease before she re-entered her home to make an announcement to her family: that breeze somehow confirmed that Eamon was gone. This was the first of a series of signs that propelled Bonnie to begin writing her book, Messages: Signs, Visits, and Premonitions from Loved Ones Lost on 9/11. As part of her research, Bonnie started to investigate whether other women who’d lost their husbands in 9/11 were receiving symbols like she was. “I was raised Christian and I believe in God, of course, but I had never experienced anything like that,” Bonnie says. “When I started asking other wives, ‘Did you have something happen?’ It was unbelievable how many said yes.” Mothers, siblings and children also reported that they’d had a visitation in which they experienced their deceased loved one’s presence through a voice, for example, or the smell of their pipe smoke. Each witness felt for sure that the signs that came to them were indications that their loved one was still alive, but that their physical being had been transformed into a spiritual existence.While at first she’d tried to analyze the occurrences skeptically, Bonnie now fully believes that her husband had found ways to stay in touch with her. “Isn’t it better to feel that there is more?” Bonnie says. “Everybody was comforted by these experiences. You gain nothing by ignoring them and trying to deal with such horrific circumstances without anything else to lean on. To believe in something gives you a significant sense of support when you meet your darkest corner.”In 2006, just when Bonnie believed her husband’s soul was resting for good and that it was time to work full-time on her book, he appeared again. “I was out to dinner with a lot of friends,” she recounts. “That day I had really starting to second-guess my decision to quit my job and work on this book—I didn’t even have a publisher; I didn’t have anything except a series of stories [from families of 9/11] and I was getting more stories every day. We had just been talking about signs from September 11 and we started to share coin stories too. Coins are huge [when someone dies]. They were turning up under refrigerators, under people’s telephones and behind picture frames. So we were sitting at a round table with candles and finally the waiter brings the menus. I open my menu, and I see the person on the left of me, then the person on my right, look down. There was a penny in the middle of my menu, and the gentleman on the right said, ‘What does it say?’ It was a 1944 penny, and we’d just been talking about my last conversation with my husband: D-Day. It happened on June 6, 1944. You don’t find a 1944 penny just opening your drawer, you know?”Indeed Eamon was still finding ways to stay in touch with his wife, and her awareness of his pure, kind nature grew more evident than ever before. Like most married couples, Bonnie says that after 19 years and four kids together, she and Eamon had reached a point in their marriage where they’d grown so comfortable that it was easy to forget how valuable the other’s presence was. But a decade after her husband’s passing, Bonnie says she feels more connected to him than ever. “After a person is gone, you suddenly start to realize things about them that you never realized before.” Bonnie learned from Eamon’s friends and colleagues that he’d ushered people in his office out of the World Trade Center in the 1993 bombing and that he’d regularly taken a homeless man to lunch. She also feels that the very trial of losing Eamon in the physical sense brought their spirits closer together, and she says she’s learned that a successful love is very much like living as an individual: it’s facing what seems impossible that makes you stronger together.Meanwhile, there’s a lot we can all learn from a woman whose bond with her husband actually grew after he passed during the most tragic event most Americans have ever lived through. For women in long-term relationships, Bonnie McEneaney’s advice is to appreciate their partners every day. “Make sure you don’t take your situation for granted,” she says. For marriages that have hit something more serious than a temporary rut, she urges couples to consider every possible alternative to splitting. “Identify why and work hard to resolve that issue. Only if you can’t resolve it should you identify what steps you have to take. I think we quit too quickly.”Bonnie knew Eamon in college as a friend before they began dating in 1982 (they married four years later), and she has a lesson about love for single women too. “Have confidence in yourself, and be patient,” she says. “When you meet someone new, don’t be overly critical right off the bat because it takes a little bit of time for that person to let their guard down enough for you to get to know them. You may or may not really know what you want in a person. Patience is important.”Today, McEneaney says her children—now ages 16 to 22—have served as her greatest source of strength over the last 10 years. How did she mother her children through their dad’s death? “No matter how bad you feel, you’ve got to be strong for them,” she says. “It’s certainly okay to show emotion because you want your children to know how much you loved the person you lost, but remember: your kids are depending on you now. You’re it.”In moments when Bonnie needed a little extra support in parenting, extended family came through. “My kids are very fortunate because my husband comes from a big Irish family. When my husband couldn’t be at their soccer games or to see them in their first play because he was no longer with us, his brothers and sisters were always there. That’s love and the bond of family.”How does the attention on the 10th anniversary of 9/11 affect a woman who lost her husband on that day? Bonnie reveals she’s already had the privilege to visit the 9/11 Memorial twice (it opens on September 11). “People should always remember what happened and these innocent lives that were taken so needlessly,” Bonnie says. “The 9/11 Memorial will be the perfect setting for people to reflect for generations to come.”And while she prefers not to comment on her current romantic status, Bonnie McEneaney says the whole point of her story is this: “Love is the strongest force in the universe, and just because a person dies doesn’t mean they’re gone forever. They may be gone in the physical sense, but love keeps you connected. Love is strong enough to transcend any divide—even the boundary between love and death.” BIO will air a special based on Bonnie McEneaney’s book, Messages: Signs, Visits, and Premonitions from Loved Ones Lost on 9/11 on Saturday, September 10 at 10 p.m. EST. Learn more about Messages at the book’s Facebook page.Written by Kristine Gasbarre for YourTango.last_img read more

WILL ILOILO CITY SINK OR SWIM?

first_imgAccordingto Climate Central, over the course of the 21st century, global sea levels areprojected to rise between about 2 and 7 feet, and possibly more. The keyvariables will be how much warming pollution humanity dumps into the atmosphereand how quickly the land-based ice sheets in Greenland and especiallyAntarctica destabilize. Projecting where and when that rise could translateinto increased flooding and permanent inundation is profoundly importantfor coastal planning and for reckoning the costs of humanity’s emissions. “Infact, based on CoastalDEM, roughly 110 million people currently live on landbelow high tide line. This population is almost certainly protected to somedegree by existing coastal defenses, which may or may not be adequate forfuture sea levels,” Climate Central stated. Basedon sea level projections for 2050, land currently home to 300 million peoplewill fall below the elevation of an average annual coastal flood. By 2100, landnow home to 200 million people could sit permanently below the high tideline.  Nevertheless, he would seek theopinion of the Mines and Geosciences Bureau and other concerned governmentagencies about the study, said Treñas. “But whether malubog ang Iloilo City, that is another story,” said Treñas. According to the study, Iloilo City isamong major cities in the Philippines that rising sea levels could swallow. Otherareas were Roxas City in Capiz province, Cebu City, northwestern Metro Manilaand parts of Bulacan, the city of Manila, southwestern Manila, and ZamboangaCity. “Waayko kabalo kon ano na-refer ‘ya, bilog nga Iloilo City or part sang Iloilo City? I will have to checkthat,” said the mayor. “First of all I do not know whetherthat will really happen. Second, I do not know who made the report,” saidTreñas. Sealevel rise is one of the best known of climate change’s many dangers. Ashumanity pollutes the atmosphere with greenhouse gases, the planet warms. Andas it does so, ice sheets and glaciers melt and warming sea water expands,increasing the volume of the world’s oceans. The study results were published inthe journal Nature Communications. IN THE RED. Parts of Iloilo City are vulnerable to sea level rise, according to a study conducted by Climate Central, a research organization on climate change based in the United States. It produced this map using a new digital elevation model. Screenshot from coastal.climatecentral.org Treñas acknowledged that the rising ofseawater is one reason why the city government has pumping stations. According to the study, rising seascould affect three times more people by 2050 than previously thought,threatening to erase some of the world’s coastal cities.Iloilo City is a coastal metropolis. It faces the Iloilo Strait. “Because magsugata ang high tide, nagasulod ang tubig sa drainage naton,” he said. Theconsequences range from near-term increases in coastal flooding that can damageinfrastructure and crops to the permanent displacement of coastal communities. ILOILO City – “Things like that shouldnot be immediately accepted by anyone.” This is Mayor Jerry Treñas’ reaction toa report about this city possibly disappearing by 2050 due to rising sealevels. The study was conducted by Climate Central, a United States-based“independent organization of leading scientists and journalists researching andreporting the facts about changing climate and its impact on the public.” Inits website, Climate Central stated that projecting flood risk involves notonly estimating future sea level rise but also comparing it against landelevations. However, sufficiently accurate elevation data are eitherunavailable or inaccessible to the public, or prohibitively expensive in mostof the world outside the United States, Australia, and parts of Europe. Thisclouds understanding of where and when sea level rise could affect coastalcommunities in the most vulnerable parts of the world. According to Climate Central, a newdigital elevation model it produced helps fill the gap. That model, CoastalDEM,shows that many of the world’s coastlines are far lower than has been generallyknown and that sea level rise could affect hundreds of millions of more peoplein the coming decades than previously understood. Despitethese existing defenses, Climate Central said increasing ocean flooding,permanent submergence, and coastal defense costs are likely to deliver profoundhumanitarian, economic, and political consequences. Treñas said he heard the new about thestudy but was unsure about its veracity. The city’s pumping stations are onMuelle Loney Street one at the Iloilo River. Tolessen the threat, Climate Central suggests adapting measures such asconstruction of levees and other defenses or relocation to higher ground. “Thiswill happen not just in the distant future, but also within the lifetimes ofmost people alive today,” it added./PNlast_img read more

B&E suspects remanded to prison

first_imgDeon Brown and Trevon Alleyne appeared before Magistrate Sherdel Isaacs-Marcus on Monday at the Georgetown Magistrates’ Courts to answer to a charge of larceny.It is alleged that between April 26 and 27, 2019 at Lot 104 Regent Road, Bourda, Georgetown, Brown and Alleyne broke and entered the business place of Vivekananda Ramoutar and stole a quantity of items worth $1.2 million.Both men pleaded not guilty to the charge when it was read to them.The prosecution’s case contended that on April 27, Police ranks, acting on information received, went to the location, where it was discovered that the business had been broken into. Upon investigating, the ranks found the two men on the premises with the articles. They were subsequently arrested.Brown, a 38-year-old mason, of Lot 207 Charlotte Street, Georgetown, told the court he resided next door to the business, in a house with eight other persons. He added that he woke up and four cops were standing over him, asking him for the items he stole, but he said he denied knowledge of the incident. He told the court that the ranks went into the upper flat and brought down a battery and nipper. The man said he was arrested along with the other occupants of the home, but the others were later released, while he remained in custody.Twenty-year-old Alleyne told the court he saw a battery outside and he took it.The Police Prosecutor objected to bail based on the fact that both men were arrested at the scene with the items in their possession.They were remanded to prison, and the case was scheduled to continue on May 2, 2019.last_img read more