Facebook8Tweet0Pin0Submitted by Home Instead Senior Care® Olympia Home Instead Senior Care offers solutions for aging adults wishing to stay in their homes.A long-time employee of an accounting firm, Mary has been waiting for this promotion for years. “This job is just what I’ve dreamed about all my life,” she excitedly told her best friend. But then Mary’s mom fell and broke her hip. As the youngest in the family and her mom’s presumed favorite, Mary suddenly is thrust into the role of family caregiver and is struggling to keep up with the demands of her new job. “I hate the feeling that I have to choose between caring for my mom and a new job all because my siblings won’t help.”Situations like this are among the family conflicts that caregivers encounter each day while caring for aging parents. Caregiver stress, life-and-death medical crises, financial problems and property disputes often become part of the ongoing saga of a family’s caregiving story. Relationships between adult brothers and sisters can suffer as a result.That’s why the local Home Instead Senior Care® office has launched the 50-50 Rule®, a program that offers strategies for overcoming sibling differences to help families provide the best care for elderly parents.“Any South Puget Sound family that has cared for a senior loved one knows that problems working with siblings can lead to family strife,” said Kelly Cavenah, Administrator of the local Home Instead Senior Care office serving Lewis, Mason, Thurston & Grays Harbor Counties. “Making decisions together, dividing the workload and teamwork are the keys to overcoming family conflict.”The 50-50 Rule refers to the average age (50) when siblings are caring for their parents as well as the need for brothers and sisters to share in the plans for care 50-50. ResearchSharing the responsibility of caring for aging parents tends to begin around age 50.conducted for the Home Instead Senior Care network reveals that an inability to work together often leads to one sibling becoming responsible for the bulk of caregiving in 43 percent of families. And that can result in the deterioration of relationships with brothers and sisters.“If you’re 50, have siblings and are assisting with the care of seniors, it’s time to develop a plan,” Cavenah said. “This program can help.”At the core of the 50-50 Rule public education program is a family relationship and communication guide of real-life situations that features practical advice from sibling relationships expert Dr. Ingrid Connidis from the University of Western Ontario. She says that relationships among siblings should be protected.“Like all relationships, siblings have a history,” Connidis noted. “Whatever happened in the past influences what happens in the present. Regardless of their circumstances, most siblings do feel a responsibility to care for parents that is built from love. And that’s a good place to start – optimistically and assuming the best.”Even the best of circumstances, though, can cause a strain for a family dealing with the issues of an aging parent. That’s where the free 50-50 Rule guide of family situations will help brothers and sisters struggling with any number of topics from trying to divide care and work better as a team to dealing with end-of-life issues. In the guide, Connidis addresses situations, like the one described at the beginning of this release, with practical advice.The guide and a website at SolvingFamilyConflict.com will offer a variety of additional tips and resources for siblings. For more information, visit the site or contact your local Home Instead Senior Care office at 360.570.0049. “Sometimes problems can be alleviated with a little extra home care for seniors and respite for family caregivers,” Cavenah said.The extra effort will be well worth it, Connidis explained. “Siblings are sometimes the only family relationships that endure. After parents, siblings are the ones we’ve known the longest. So there is a depth of empathy we can tap into that goes back to that relationship. When I look at my brother, I still see that little boy playing in the back yard. And I can still remember caring for my little sister. Those memories are what motivate us to care for our parents and each other. It’s what keeps us connected, even when we’re different. That sibling relationship will continue after parents are gone; research suggests that siblings don’t want to harm their relationships with each other.” ABOUT HOME INSTEAD SENIOR CAREYour local Home Instead Senior Care agency was founded in 2007 with mission to serve seniors and employ Certified Nurse Assistants & Home Care Aides across the South Puget Sound community. At Home Instead Senior Care, it’s relationship before task, while continuing to provide superior quality service that enhances the lives of seniors everywhere. With a great staff and round the clock availability, they focus on quality over quantity. Read more about Home Instead Senior Care by clicking here.
Rabbi Harry Levin of the Open Synagogue leads a song during the lighting of the Menorah in Red Bank Tuesday night, the first day of Hanukkah, the eight day festival of lights that commemorates the victory of the Maccabees over their oppressors, who forbade Jews to practice their religion. Following the battle, the Jewish army reclaimed their temple, and though they found only enough oil to light the candles for one night, the oil lasted for eight days. Jews around the globe celebrate the miracle by lighting one candle on the menorah for each of the eight days of the festival, enjoying family gatherings featuring potato pancakes, jelly doughnuts and other foods fried in oil, playing games and exchanging gifts. Though not considered a major religious holiday on the Jewish calendar, it has become a important time for Jewish families to enjoy gathering togather in celebration of their faith and culture. This year’s observance last from Dec. 20 until Dec. 28.
By Bruce FuhrThe Nelson Daily SportsLike a well-oiled machine, the L.V. Rogers Bombers picked apart the Rossland Royals in every facet of the opening West Kootenay High School Boy’s Basketball game Tuesday at the Hangar.The Bombers shook off any pre-season rust, outscoring the Royals 22-3 in the second period to dump Rossland 87-18.The game was the first of the hoop season for both teams, but the Bombers definitely looked like the a squad in mid-season form.“I thought we were okay, but I find myself hyper-critical of the way we play,” Bomber head coach Ross Naka told The Nelson Daily following the game.“Rossland had only six guys so I cycled everyone in to the game. But (overall) I was pretty happy with what went on out on the court.”Rossland kept pace for the remainder of the first period — trailing 22-12 — but after the teams returned to the court for the second period it was all LVR.“I thought we started a bit slow on defence but in the second half there was a lot more talking on defence and we looked much, much better,” explained Naka, pleased with his young squad consisting of nine Grade 11s, two seniors and a Grade 10 player.McLain Sandeveland led the Bomber attack with 16 points while Matt Zukowski added 14.Connor Banks scored 12 and Jack Sturrup and Isaiah Kingdon each had 10.For Rossland Diego Mrlenaro had 12 points.The Bombers set out on the road Friday to play in the 51st annual Ok-kan-aqen Invitational Boy’s Basketball Tournament hosted by defending AA champion South Okanagan Hornets.The Bombers get fed to the wolves right off as LVR meets South Okanagan at noon Friday.The tournament is being played in Osoyoos as the gymnasium is not ready for play after a fire gutted the school earlier this year.Royals explode past LVR with big fourth quarter The news was not as good for the LVR Senior Girls as Rossland out scored the home side 29-10 in the fourth quarter en route to a 49-30 win in West Kootenay High School Girl’s Basketball action.Carrie Smith led the Royals with 15 points as the Royals converted three baskets from behind the three-point arc.Devyn Parker, Kiandra McLaren, and Samantha Einarson each had four points to lead the Bombers.LVR travels to Vernon Friday to play in the Vernon Panthers Invitational Tournament.First up for LVR is South Okanagan Hornets.email@example.com
Ian KruljacMike SmithWayne SeltzerTyler SeltzerEric KruljacPress ConferenceTHE MODERATOR: Ladies and gentlemen, the winner of the Breeders’ Cup Filly and Mare Sprint is Finest City. Congratulations to all of you gentlemen. Incredible performance. We want to start with Mike Smith, the all-time winningest Breeders’ Cup jockey, because he’s got to ride some more today as we all know. So, Mike, we want to cut you loose. But maybe you can just describe the trip for us, your impressions of this race?MIKE SMITH: Let’s start out with, man, he has just done a tremendous job getting this mare ready for this race. I love going along on the turf, back to middle distance sprint on the dirt. Why he chose me to ride her, I don’t know, but I’m sure happy he did. I was able to get on her a few times for him, and she was really going into this race great. He did a wonderful job of getting her ready. She jumped very well today. I was able to just kind of put my hands down. Once they go a mile and an 1/8th they learn to relax, like Mr. Kruljac, we were talking about it earlier. She was well within herself. I knew she had her air in her being that she was running the distance. So it was just a matter if we could hold them off, and she did a great job of doing that. Again, just happy that I was part of the team today.Q. Mike, I think we know why they chose you to ride her. Does it ever get old being on the stage here at the Breeders’ Cup?MIKE SMITH: No, it doesn’t. No, it doesn’t. We’re getting toward the end of my career, so every one of these means a whole lot to me. I’ve got to get that Breeders’ Cup record as high as I can. Because these young guys behind me, man, they’ll catch me so quick. So trying to get it as high as I can, and thank you all so much for giving me the opportunity. I appreciate it.THE MODERATOR: Good luck in the Classic today, and if you need to go, by all means.MIKE SMITH: Thank you, thank you.THE MODERATOR: Ian Kruljac is the winning trainer. Ian, congratulations to you.IAN KRULJAC: Thank you.THE MODERATOR: If I’m not mistaken, she’s your only winner on the year, correct?IAN KRULJAC: Yes. I’ve had a couple seconds, I believe.THE MODERATOR: Yeah, you’ve had two wins with her this year, and now you’ve got a Breeders’ Cup victory. You’ve been training for, what, five years on your own?IAN KRULJAC: A year.THE MODERATOR: Oh, a year on your own.IAN KRULJAC: Or so. Who is counting (laughing)?THE MODERATOR: Tell us what was going through your mind when she hit the wire and you won the Breeders’ Cup Race?IAN KRULJAC: I saw the 10 coming at her, and she dug down and started to pull away more, so I know she’s got a lot of heart, and definitely a fighter.THE MODERATOR: Just talk about your feelings on her coming into today and the way that she prepared for this race? How live did you think you were?IAN KRULJAC: Well, to get a Group 1 for a filly is everything you can do in this game, especially on this stage. There’s nothing more you can dream for. So I’m very happy for her.THE MODERATOR: Very good. We’re also joined by the winning owners Tyler and Wayne Seltzer. Tyler on the left, Wayne in the middle. Tyler, congratulations to you.TYLER SELTZER: Thank you very much.THE MODERATOR: Give us your impressions of this race today.TYLER SELTZER: Well, I’ve got to tell you, my wife will tell I talk too much, so if I talk too much, just cut me off.THE MODERATOR: No, by all means.TYLER SELTZER: Last night when I couldn’t sleep, I went upstairs to my office in my house, and I found a mug from the first time I ever attended a Breeders’ Cup when I was 11 years old. It was November 1st, 1986, 30 years ago this month here at Oak Tree at Santa Anita. And I came with my mom. My mom’s no longer alive. And her initials are on the back of our silks. She’s been deceased for about nine years now. But I fell in love with horseracing at a very young age. To be back here 30 years later at a place like this in a race like this, with people like this and a horse like that, is just beyond belief. It’s really — I’m probably going to get too emotional, but it’s really special to be here. And I have my wife, my kids, in-laws, family friends, it’s a fantastic day. I’ve got to thank the Kruljacs, as I said out there. An honor to have a Hall of Fame legend to ride her, is pretty special.THE MODERATOR: Can you talk about the connection between you guys and the Kruljac family and how you came to send this horse to Ian?TYLER SELTZER: Sure, absolutely. So about 9 or 10 years ago, my father-in-law, who I should shout out to him as well, he’s back home in San Diego, he has some health problems, but he’s been going to the horse races at Del Mar for 40-plus years. So he was going to be here today, but he couldn’t come. So hopefully he’s watching at home. Lloyd, shout out to you if you are watching. He has known a lot of people in this game. So he introduced us to the Kruljacs, and I met Eric. We bought our very first yearling with him, a colt by the name of Triumphant Flight. We had some success. I actually was on my own at that time. And after one good horse my dad, Wayne, thought this seems like an easy game. You buy one horse with a trainer, you win Stakes races, let me get in on this as well. So we started with thoroughbreds and here we are ten years later. So through that time obviously got to know Ian really well. Have a tremendous amount of faith and trust in him, Eric, the whole family. Obviously it’s a family business, as owners, to deal with a wonderful family like that. I feel weird calling him a young man. I guess I am older than he is. But still he and his wife, just tremendous people. It’s nice to see — I guess I have to be careful how I say this, it’s nice to see some of the good guys win in this game. So it’s an honor to be here with them.THE MODERATOR: Eric Kruljac is here in the corner. Ian, can you talk about what you learned from your father and the decision to go out on your own when you did?ERIC KRULJAC: Well, I’m very fortunate to get a filly like this. So I’ve just taken her and she’s taken me and hopefully we keep going.FastScripts Transcript by ASAP Sports